Do you know when to stop if the memories are too painful?

Opening up to yourself and writing about your experiences allows you to be more open to others. Be careful as the memories flood back, they may not all be good ones. If you find it is too much to handle or you aren’t willing to deal with it, that is okay as well.

Bella Mahaya Carter shares below her 8 tips for taking care of yourself while writing painful memories.

  1. Recognize your opportunities. Consider this writing an exquisite, creative opportunity to heal, learn and grow.
  2. Be gentle. Soften your resistance.
  3. Step outside your box.  You can’t write about your challenges from the same perspective from which you lived them.
  4. Give it space. Back off. Take a break. Work on something else.
  5. Check in with your body. Are you clenching your jaw? Is your brow furrowed? Do a quick scan of your body and relax the tension you’re holding.
  6. Welcome discomfort. The classic fight or flight. It may seem counterintuitive, but when you welcome your discomfort with a loving, open heart, the distress softens, and in some cases dissolves completely.
  7. Up your self-care. Spend time in nature, visit a garden, take a walk or create an art project.
  8. Befriend uncertainty. Accept not-knowing. Asking why something is the way it is can be a trap.

All very good tips. Try one out and see how it helps your writing.